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Ask a care manager: What is a family?

After a number of years we’re having a family reunion. In fact, having attended several of these throughout 35-plus years, we volunteered to help host this year’s event. It will be here before we know it. The interesting thing that this brings up is what is a family? It started easily enough. We would invite any/all […]

Comments Off / July 14, 2014 | Posted in Commentary | Read More »

Getting older? How and what to prepare for

Susan and her husband have thought about retirement for some years. She says she started thinking about it as she approached 55 but said, “not yet.”  Her husband, while knowing it was coming, didn’t actively begin to think about the next phase until he hit 60 and knew he could qualify for Social Security payments […]

1 Comment / June 04, 2014 | Posted in Commentary | Read More »

Mothers: Who they are and what they give us

I picked out cards to give for Mother’s Day last week and kept having to double check myself because I felt like I was forgetting someone. I wanted to remember my grandchildren’s mothers (my daughter and daughters in law). It wasn’t until I was back in my car heading back to work that I remembered. […]

Comments Off / May 15, 2014 | Posted in Commentary | Read More »

Aging in Community

A recent American Society on Aging Journal, “Generations” devoted the entire issue to Aging in Community, asaging.org. Being a social worker working with older and their families for many years always draws me to professional publications and programs that deal with the issues. It was on a recent vacation with friends that I began reading […]

Comments Off / April 20, 2014 | Posted in Commentary | Read More »

Ask a Care Manager: What you know, what you don’t

Bert made the phone call after copying down the 800 number shown during the commercial. He was worried about his mother since his father’s death and this might be the answer. She was elderly and lived in the family home several miles out of town. Plus, they said, “No cost, no obligation.” They could help […]

Comments Off / March 13, 2014 | Posted in Commentary | Read More »

How old do I have to be for someone to tell me what to do?

Why is it that adult children feel the need to “boss around” their older parents? What is going on that gives them the right and privilege to “take over?” At what point does an older adult give up the rights of self-determination and roll over to the requests and demands of their adult children? These […]

Comments Off / December 15, 2013 | Posted in Commentary | Read More »

Ask a care manager: Leaving a skilled nursing facility

Do I have to stay in a nursing home? I broke my hip several weeks ago and was sent to a skilled nursing facility for rehabilitation. I have been receiving physical therapy and occupational therapy several times a week and am improving. My family is worried if I go home, I may fall and break […]

Comments Off / November 12, 2013 | Posted in Commentary | Read More »