This is part two of a new list of “Billingsley’s Axioms of Life.” These axioms are created when something, such as a sign, book, magazine, conversation or dream, stimulates my tendency to think sideways. If you review these axioms weekly and apply them to your daily living you will look and feel young in 28 days.
• When dealing with bullies, you need to eventually fight back or they will never stop bullying you. They enjoy what they do.
• If your ego controls you, the fear of losing what you have will be your constant companion. It’s hard to enjoy anything when you are always afraid you will lose it.
• Dr. Murray Banks said, “As you ramble on through life, brother, whatever be your goal, keep your eye upon the doughnut and not upon the hole.” I think this doughnut philosophy supports being optimistic.
• A person can spend an entire lifetime worrying about the future, and more often than not, they have no control over the future. Don’t waste a lot of time worrying about the future or what happened in the past. Put your energy and creative thoughts in the present, the right now, before the present is over.
• There is a lot of beauty in our everyday lives. When you can see the energy in a tree or daily feel compassion for others, you are living a full life.
• Can you imagine the freedom you will feel when you erase thinking about the past and the future? To capture this very instant moment is to experience right now liberty from worry and regret.
• We all make mistakes. Usually we pay a price for the mistakes we make. Once you pay the price, forgive yourself and move on.
• Before you give advice, try to determine if you are only trying to convince yourself of the truth of what you believe or maybe you are rescuing the person seeking the advice from finding their own solution. Rather than giving advice, ask them questions until they discover the solution.
• When you are experiencing a lot of pain or sickness, keep reminding yourself that you are more than the pain or sickness. Your mind can help you deal with your body, but you have to trust your mind first.
• I remember reading somewhere that Buddha’s last statement was, “Be a light unto yourself.” I believe inner peace and harmony is always within us. We have to find it and nurture it.
• Perhaps the best way to deal with a fear is to walk right up to it and look it in the eye. Running away from what you fear means the fear lives forever.
• Our expectations often determine our reality. When I enter a restaurant expecting poor service or bad food, I usually receive bad service or bad food, or both.
• There is a Sioux Indian expression that “the frog does not drink up the pond in which he lives.” We should take care of our environment before the pond dries up.
• If being liked is very important to you, you will probably constantly seek compliments. If being respected is very important to you, you will seek obedience, and you may not care what others think about you.
• Tomorrow morning, forget or drop everything you now believe about yourself and life. Create a lot of silent time for yourself, and try to find the inner source that exists within you. There may be some very interesting surprises in store for you.
• Often, when I assume something, I later discover that I was wrong. In the last year or so, I have learned to ask a lot of questions before assumption enters the picture. Questions are more potent than answers and more educational than assumptions.
Bob Billingsley is an El Dorado Hills resident and biweekly columnist for the Mountain Democrat.