Thanks to the generosity of John and Gloria Bruno, I have the book, “The Soul Would Have No Rainbow If the Eyes Had No Tears,” by Guy A. Zona . . .In this book of native American proverbs, the following Cherokee proverb is noted: “Don’t let yesterday use up too much of today.”
I believe this Cherokee proverb supports the idea that the past is done — over with. You must let go of the past to enjoy the present and move forward to the right-now and the future. You can put your energy into sniffling about the past, or you can devote energy to enjoying the present — your choice.
Allowing a past mistake to control your present life is a mistake. Get over it, and quit using a past mistake as an alibi for current failure.
Anyone can wallow in self-pity and spend the rest of his/her life in a “poor me” world. There are a whole lot of volunteer victims in our world who blame the past and the present for their “ain’t life awful” philosophy.
• Volunteer victims allow past mistakes to dominate their present life, their present misery, and their present attitudes. They allow their past to crush their present life, and they have little hope for the future. In fact, they have no positive thoughts about tomorrow. Folks, the past is done — get over it. It is exhausting, and it will exhaust you if you allow the past to control you.
• Life is full of joy and blessings if you allow yourself to experience them. How you see the universe is how you will experience life. Your thoughts become your actions, and your actions become your reality.
• Stingy people, aka cheapskates, think the rest of us are fools. They watch us always pay the dinner tab or snicker when everyone, but them, buys a round of drinks. If you are lucky, they may leave a tip for the waitress, and it will be a small tip. Being cheap doesn’t create any shame for them. They believe the world is full of suckers, and it’s OK. to take advantage of suckers.
• The occasional slow-motion shot you see in movies was created by cheapskates. A movie producer watched them reaching for their wallet when the dinner tab arrived. Before their hand touched their wallet, at least two other people reached for the bill. All cheapskates have very slow hands.
• Waiting for the stingy ones to grab the dinner bill is like leaving the porch light on for Jimmy Hoffa — it ain’t gonna happen, folks. Cheapskates have more patience when it’s time to pay, and they have no shame.
• If you have a friend or relative who is stingy but has many other good qualities, continue the relationship, but never go drinking or eating with them.
• When you go to movies with the cheap ones, timing is important. Just before you start to reach for your wallet at the ticket booth, say, “I have to go to the bathroom” and take off walking. Sometimes, if you don’t give them time to think, they will get stuck with the bill. They will not enjoy the movie, but you will!
• Many teenagers have the ability to tolerate a mess, such as their room, better than adults do. Teenagers, instead of cleaning the room, turn off the lights or push everything under the bed. They ignore what we think is important. They also don’t understand why we think a room should be clean, tidy; and why should you make a bed that you will sleep in 12 hours from now?
• Eventually I learned that teenagers only listen to adult lectures for two minutes or less, and then they tune out. So, I limited my bedroom lectures to the following statement: “Clean up your room or stay in it this weekend – your choice!” By Thursday night, the room was fit for human existence.
• If I were going to offer a class on overcoming depression, the first thing I would say to the students is, “Forget everything you believe about yourself and life. We will start anew, and your depression will be history.”
• Monika and I wish you inner peace and lots of love for this wonderful time of the year. If you are loved, you are worthy – and we love you!
Bob Billngsley is an El Dorado Hills resident and biweekly columnist for the Mountain Democrat.