Our eyes and ears allow an awful lot of information into our brain and our heart. This ears and eyes communication-express roars during our awake hours and shapes the way to see our universe.
Over the years I have decided to trust my eyes and question what my ears hear when it comes to evaluating people and events. My eyes show me how a person acts and reacts with people, including me. I can spot a bully a mile away. Rigid, uptight people show their colors immediately. Con artists test your eyes and ears, but phoniness is hard to hide. Loving, compassionate people are also easy to spot and fun to be around.
• Outside resources determine what information enters our ears. Other people want to tell us what the truth is as they see it.
• How do you determine if ear information is the truth or accurate? You know what your eyes are seeing, but information from others may be biased, inaccurate or totally wrong. People who love to gossip are not interested in the truth. They are interested in judging others and being “the first to know.”
• After you receive the eyes and ears data, then you have to decide what information is reliable and what information you will pass on to others.
• In her book, “A Cherokee Feast of Days, Volume Two,” Joyce Sequichie states that “it is important to know that it is not what goes into us that makes a difference but what comes out.” Joyce makes a hopeful statement. During our life journey, we may be receiving lots of false information, but it doesn’t mean that we pass that information on to others. Our job is to record the data, analyze it, and then pass on accurate data to our universe.
• What goes into our heart and brain does not determine what comes out of us. We have the power and the responsibility to not judge others by what we hear only.
• During our life journey, we may be bombarded with trauma, significant sit-backs and disappointments. However, the human spirit has the power and the ability to sort out evil and to eventually create goodness, even under terrible circumstances.
When suffering enters our life, it doesn’t mean that we have to pass our suffering onto others. What comes in can be dealt with. We can learn from the suffering and pass the life lesson on to others.
• Do not allow suffering to define your present life. Pity pills may be easy to swallow, but they are not good for the human spirit, and they do not make you well. Volunteer victims live to promote pity, but they don’t live very well.
• There are occasions when my stupidity surpasses my expectations of myself. My wife, Monika, recently had a second hip replacement. A couple of days after bringing her home, I noticed her right leg was darker then her left leg. I immediately assumed that her right hip replacement had gone wrong.
I was ready to take her to the emergency room, and assumed she might lose the right leg, at least. Before I could call 911 or drive her to emergency, Monika pointed out that the color on the right leg was iodine which surgeons use routinely to prevent infections. Occasionally, I panic when alleged health issues are involved!
• It always knocks me out when I hear someone trying to convince me to buy something by saying my first payment is not due for 90 days. What is the difference if I pay now or in 90 days? Either way, the monthly payments remain the same, and I still have to pay off the entire amount. It feels like a judge telling me I am sentenced to 60 days in jail, but I don’t have to start serving the sentence until 90 days have passed.
Bob Billingsley is a columnist at the Mountain Democrat. His column appears bi-weekly.