My Turn: Let’s have an honest talk about suicide

May is Mental Health Awareness Month and you may have heard the phrase, “Each mind matters.”

Why does each mind matter? Mental health is something we all have. Just as our bodies need attention, our minds also need nourishment and care. Suicide rates are increasing and there is a relationship between mental illness and suicide. According to the National Alliance on Mental Illness about 90 percent of people who die by suicide have experienced a history of mental health issues.

At the Suicide Prevention Network, it is our goal to bring awareness to suicide. This includes recognizing signs and symptoms as well as reducing the stigma.

As community members we all play a role in reducing the negative associations around suicide and mental illness. It is up to us to be advocates and caregivers who provide support and lifesaving resources for loved ones at risk.

Anyone can be at risk of suicide. Two big risk factors are having life stressors and lacking skills to cope with these stressors. Life stressors may include health, finances, divorce, children, moving, family problems, employment, death of a loved one or a loss of any kind. Some positive ways to cope with these stressors are exercise, deep breathing, healthy nutrition, appropriate sleep, listening to music and talking to someone you trust.

Unfortunately some may find that life stressors are too difficult or some choose negative ways to cope. Signs of suicide may include:

  • Talking about death directly
  • Giving away possessions
  • Engaging in risky behavior (i.e. driving recklessly, coming to work intoxicated)
  • Abusing or consuming excessive amounts of alcohol or drugs
  • Sleeping too much or too little
  • Eating too much or too little
  • Making funeral arrangements
  • Isolating from loved ones
  • Engaging in self-harm (cutting or burning)
  • Feeling hopeless.

If someone you know is displaying these signs or reaching out to you for help, it is important to have a conversation with that person. Here is one script the Suicide Prevention Network recommends:

Step one: Ask. Ask the person directly if he or she is thinking about suicide. “I have noticed you have been acting different and I am really concerned. Are you thinking about suicide?”

Step two: Listen. Hear the person’s story. Listen and offer support without judgement. “It sounds like you are going through a lot. I am so sorry. How can I support you?”

Step three: Connect. Connect the person to resources. “I want to make sure you stay safe; can we call someone so that we can keep you safe?”

Here are prevention and support hotlines that anyone can call for immediate suicide concerns:

  • Suicide Prevention Lifeline
    273-8255 or text “ANSWER” to 839863
  • 24-Hour Psychiatric Emergency Services (El Dorado County Mental Health)
    Placerville: (530) 622-3345
    South Lake Tahoe: (530) 544-2219
  • Suicide Prevention Network
    California or Nevada residents: (775) 783-1510

Other local mental health resources can be found at

Suicide is everyone’s business and there is support available. May we all be aware of our mental health and well-being so that we can help each other find hope and healing.

Alisa Merino is program coordinator for the Suicide Prevention Network. The Suicide Prevention Network is a 501(c)3 and offers education, awareness and supportive services to members of El Dorado and Douglas counties. 

Special to Village Life


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